Resentment: Another factor married couples face is “letting anger turn into resentment,” Castellanos says. When you pair resentment with a busy schedule, both people are exhausted, upset and drained, and sex is the last thing on their minds.
Sex becomes boring: If we’re having boring sex, it’s because we don’t make it a priority in our lives. And unfortunately, Pailet says many of the couples she works with complain of having a really boring sex life and as a result, “no ones’ needs are getting met.”
Too much of a focus on intercourse: According to Pailet, most people with vaginas are not ready when intercourse starts; they aren’t aroused enough, which can make sex painful and keeps them from experiencing “intense sensations,” she says. After it happens a few times, the likelihood of a having sex decreases by quite a bit.
Pressure: Both people may feel pressure to perform and please the other, Pailet notes. And let’s face it: When you are married with kids, your time can be limited and leave you feeling even more pressure to get it right in a short amount of time.
